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Books

• "Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End," Atul Gawande

• "Gratitude," Oliver Sacks

• "Knocking on Heaven's Door: The Path to a Better Way of Death," Katy Butler

• "When Breath Becomes Air," Paul ­Kalanithi

• "The Good Death: An Exploration of Dying in America," Ann Neumann

• "Ethical Wills: Putting Your Values on Paper," Barry Baines

• "How We Die Now: Intimacy and the Work of Dying," Karla A. Erickson

• "Composing a Further Life: The Age of Active Wisdom," Mary Catherine ­Bateson

• "Claiming Your Place at the Fire," ­Richard Leider

• "The Four Things That Matter Most: A Book About Living," Ira Byock

• "The Best Care Possible," Ira Byock

• "The Art of Aging: A Doctor's Prescription for Well Being," Sherwin B. Nuland

• "How We Die: Reflections on Life's Final Chapter," Sherwin Nuland

• "Staying Sharp: 9 Keys for a Youthful Brain," Henry Emmons and David Alter

• "The Gray Zone: When Life Support No Longer Supports Life," Deborah Day Laxson

• "My Voice, My Choice: A Practical Guide to Writing a Meaningful Healthcare Directive," Anne Elizabeth Denny

Other resources

• Honoring Choices Minnesota, ­honoringchoices.org

• Minnesota Network for Hospice and Palliative Care (formerly Minnesota Hospice Organization and Hospice Minnesota), mnhpc.org

• Minnesota Coalition for Death Education and Support (MCDES), mcdes.org.

• Metropolitan Area Agency on Aging, metroaging.org

• The Conversation Project, founded by columnist Ellen Goodman. Also Google her four-minute YouTube video and 12-minute TED talk: theconversation project.org

• National Healthcare Decisions Day, nhdd.org

• National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization (NHPCO), nhpco.org

• Compassion and Choices, compassionandchoices.org

• Healthcare Directives From the Heart, healthcaredirectivesfromtheheart.com

• Speaking of Dying workshops, four sessions led by a former nurse midwife; speakingofdyingmn@gmail.com or 612-868-4116.

• Light The Legacy, (St. Cloud), lightthelegacy.org

Compiled by Parkshore and Gail Rosenblum