Carolyn Hax | Star Tribune
Columnist | Relationships

Carolyn Hax is a 40-something repatriated New Englander with a liberal arts degree and a lot of opinions and that's about it, really, when you get right down to it. Oh, and the shoes. A lot of shoes. Her column, "Tell Me About It," appears Sunday, Wednesday and Friday.


Hax: Don't let others trip you into guilt

Adapted from a recent online discussion.Dear Carolyn: Now that I'm getting pretty good at setting boundaries (thank you for your help with that!), how do…


Hax: Is 'TV-cheating' on spouse OK?

Dear Carolyn: My spouse and I have a long list of TV shows scattered through our streaming queues, but there are some I really want…


Hax: Stay the course on 'no gifts' request

Adapted from a recent online discussion.Dear Carolyn: Most of my friends have specified "no gifts" on their invitations for their kids' birthdays and I always…


Hax: Ban the grandkids from next visit?

Dear Carolyn: I have a question about an adult child, her husband, and two small children paying a two-week visit. I am still recovering from…


Hax: Grieving an imperfect mother

Dear Carolyn: My mother died recently. Ours was a complex relationship; due to earlier life traumas and later mental illness, she came across as a…


Hax: Mother-in-law responds to questions with silence and side-eye

Dear Carolyn: I have a lovely mother-in-law. She is an amazing grandmother, and we can rely on her to do what she says she…


Hax: Burdened by mother's irresponsible lifestyle

Dear Carolyn: How do I learn not to be resentful when someone continually puts me in a bad spot? My mother's life philosophy is,…


Hax: His cheatin' heart feels broken now

Adapted from a recent online discussion.Dear Carolyn: My wife and I separated a few months ago. I had felt lonely and unsatisfied in our marriage…


Hax: A 'breakup squad' for her boyfriend?

Adapted from a recent online discussion.   Dear Carolyn: My boyfriend of six months has a best friend, “John,” who now lives in another country.…


Hax: Hard to lose the baby weight when hubby isn't pulling his

Dear Carolyn: My husband and I have three kids, 10, 8 and 1 (who was a surprise but is such a blessing). I gained a…