Columnist | Relationships

Carolyn Hax is a 40-something repatriated New Englander with a liberal arts degree and a lot of opinions and that's about it, really, when you get right down to it. Oh, and the shoes. A lot of shoes. Her column, "Tell Me About It," appears Sunday, Wednesday and Friday.


Hax: Will her boyfriend and parents hit it off?

Dear Carolyn: My boyfriend is the smartest, most cultured man I've ever known. One of his great abilities is his appreciation for nuance. I love…


Hax: Sibling should appreciate brother's elder care

Adapted from a recent online discussion. Dear Carolyn: My siblings are arguing over my elderly mother’s finances. My brother (60-plus) lives with Mom (80-plus) but…


Hax: Options for dealing with depression

Adapted from a recent online discussion. Dear Carolyn: I suffer from depression that has been fairly well controlled until recently. The past couple of weeks,…


Hax: Cheater sets up 'slow torture' risk

Adapted from a recent online discussion.Dear Carolyn: My husband is having an affair and plans to leave me for his affair partner. She is a…


Hax: Should 'Steve' be called 'Grandpa'?

Dear Carolyn: My mother’s boyfriend of seven years, “Steve,” is not a horrible person, but he is difficult. He is a classic know-it-all, and regularly…


Hax: Don't let others trip you into guilt

Adapted from a recent online discussion.Dear Carolyn: Now that I'm getting pretty good at setting boundaries (thank you for your help with that!), how do…


Hax: Is 'TV-cheating' on spouse OK?

Dear Carolyn: My spouse and I have a long list of TV shows scattered through our streaming queues, but there are some I really want…


Hax: Stay the course on 'no gifts' request

Adapted from a recent online discussion.Dear Carolyn: Most of my friends have specified "no gifts" on their invitations for their kids' birthdays and I always…


Hax: Ban the grandkids from next visit?

Dear Carolyn: I have a question about an adult child, her husband, and two small children paying a two-week visit. I am still recovering from…


Hax: Grieving an imperfect mother

Dear Carolyn: My mother died recently. Ours was a complex relationship; due to earlier life traumas and later mental illness, she came across as a…