Advice

Looking for some advice on love, family, life? Here are tips from the Star Tribune's experts.


Ask Amy: 'Tech widow' wants to get husband's attention

Dear Amy: I’ve been married for four years. My husband is really good to me, but lately it feels like our marriage is in…


Ask Amy: Grandmother's babysitting leaves boyfriend lonely

Dear Amy: My lady friend, “Kate,” and I have been together nine years. We both have children and grandkids and travel often. When not…


How to stop a photo shoot from turning into a family feud

You're at a family gathering and don't want nonfamily members to be in the group pictures. How do you break the news to your kids' significant others?


Ask Amy: Yes, that's her 'real' name

Dear Amy: I am a foreign-born U.S. citizen from Hong Kong, a formerly British colony for more than a century. I have lived in…


Ask Amy: Husband resents wife's grief over ex's death

Dear Amy: My wife and I have been together since 2010. Our marriage has never been perfect, but we have managed to stay together.…


Friend is in a snit after misinterpreting e-mail as snarky

Your e-mail upset your friend, but you meant no harm. What do you do?


Ask Amy: Couple want to resist Mom's church marketing

Dear Amy: What can be done about my boyfriend’s overly religious mother, who repeatedly invites us to attend her church? Her very small congregation…


Ask Amy: Romantic reconnection fizzles quickly

Dear Amy: I reconnected with my college boyfriend after finding him on our school’s website. We had gone our separate ways, many years ago.…


Don't just curse your luck if guest swears in front of kids

A dinner guest keeps dropping expletives in front of your young children. How do you politely tell the guest to stop?


Ask Amy: Boyfriend ponders optimal timing for breakup

Dear Amy: My girlfriend and I are in our early 20s and pursuing our educations. We’ve dated for over two years. I was recently…


Is it OK to bail on a bad first date?

You're on a first date and not feeling a connection to the other person. What should you do?


Ask Amy: He doesn't want felon son to live with them after prison

Dear Amy: After a traumatic divorce, my now 35-year-old stepson began drinking and using drugs. While living with us, he stole money from me,…


Ask Amy: Overindulged daughters suffer from 'affluenza'

Dear Amy: I am in a relationship with a man who has two daughters, ages 9 and 10. At the end of his marriage,…


Ask Amy: Reader wonders how to help a depressed friend

Dear Amy: I have a very close friend who is extremely depressed. She is negative about every aspect of her life: marriage, career and…


Ask Amy: Baby shower leads to pilfered leftovers

Dear Amy: I recently helped my sister give a baby shower for her daughter-in-law, “Linda.” Linda’s mother and sister were on the invitation as…


Ask Amy: Mr. Wonderful sends live-in love to the guest room

Dear Amy: I am a retired woman in my 70s. I met a wonderful guy online. He said his wife of 20 years had…


What can you say to neighbors about crying baby?

What to do when a newborn's crying is keeping you up.


Ask Amy: Widower wants ex-wife to be his caregiver

Dear Amy: I am an 85-year-old widower. My wife died three months ago. I have a “live-in” assistant who provides meals and general assistance.…


Ask Amy: Family ring causing rift with manipulative sister

Dear Amy: Almost 30 years ago, less than a month before his death, my father gave me a ring that has been in our…


Should boyfriend pay for girlfriend's friend's dinner, too?

Three's a crowd when the tab arrives.


Ask Amy: Woman ponders leaving dysfunctional family

Dear Amy: My partner and I have been together for almost six years. Through infertility treatment, we have a 2-year-old daughter, and I am…


See something, say something? Booger issue can be a real bugger

You're meeting someone for the first time, and she has a booger in her nose. How do you tell her?


Ask Amy: Discovery of long-lost child challenges marriage

Dear Amy: I have an extremely happy marriage of 11 years. Our lives were just about perfect, and then my husband found out that…


When third child unexpectedly joins a play date

What do you say to the parent who lets this happen?


Ask Amy: Couple's separation leads to rift in the family

Dear Amy: My brother and his wife are divorcing. My brother has been abusive and an alcoholic throughout the marriage. I have always sided…