Advice

Looking for some advice on love, family, life? Here are tips from the Star Tribune's experts.


Ask Amy: Sisters abused by stepfather now blame mother

Dear Amy: I had a rough childhood. My mom and dad had my older sister and me before they divorced. My mom remarried, and…


Neighbors' loud sexy time interrupts bedtime quiet

How do sleep-deprived neighbors tell amorous pair to quiet down?


Ask Amy: Sisters want no part of lavish family vacations

Dear Amy: Every year, our aunts, uncles and cousins plan a yearly “European family vacation.” The “Reunion Committee” sends out an “invitation newsletter” informing…


Ask Amy: Engaged couple's cat fight not really about cat

Dear Amy: I’ve started to realize that I should probably rehome my cat. I adopted her four years ago when she was a kitten…


Restaurant server keeps dishing up fawning compliments

What to do when obsequious comments are proving unappetizing.


Ask Amy: To combat social media addiction, try a 'fast'

Dear Amy: After years of denial I have realized that I am addicted to my smartphone and to social media. Sometimes it gets to…


Miserable new co-worker likes to share his many issues

Should colleagues tell him to lighten up?


Ask Amy: Dad remarried, disinherited kids and now wants to make amends

Dear Amy: My mother died 10 years ago. My father, “Lucifer,” started dating “Rebecca” within a week of my mom’s funeral. After two years,…


Ask Amy: Husband is anguished over wife's long-ago assault

Dear Amy: My wife and I have been married for 26 years and have raised two daughters. But I continue to struggle with an…


Ask Amy: Landlord husband has become way too handy

Dear Amy: My husband and I have been married for 40 years. He owns rental property, and last year a married woman moved into…


What if cruise-ship dining companions want to put politics on menu?

They want a vacation from politics, but the thought of dining with strangers is stressing them out.


Ask Amy: Out-of-wedlock pregnancy discovered – 37 years later.

Dear Amy: I got pregnant 37 years ago. The father and I were in our 20s and engaged to be married, but he dumped…


Ask Amy: Partner wants musician to abandon his 'childish fantasy'

Dear Amy: I have been with my boyfriend for more than six months, and I want to spend my life with him. I make…


Present tense: How should you handle a regifted gift?

You don't want it, either, so now what?


Ask Amy: Family wonders how to embrace transgender member

Dear Amy: I am one of six adult siblings. We gather once or twice a year to stay connected and catch up. My brother…


Ask Amy: This 'Mr.' wonders how to become 'Grandpa'

Dear Amy: I have three grandchildren who address me as “Mr.,” and not as “Grandpa.” Although it is true that I was not in…


Feeling lots of stress over carts all over the parking lot?

Here's some helpful parking lot etiquette.


Ask Amy: Grandmother wants to 'school' son and wife

Dear Amy: My husband and I went to visit our oldest son and his wife. They have three children, ages 6, 9 and 11.…


Ask Amy: Wife wonders why gift-giving is her job

Dear Amy: My husband and I have been married for four years. Even before tying the knot, his family always contacted me regarding details…


Ask Amy: Friend wants to intervene with overweight kids

Dear Amy: My wife and I are friendly with a couple who have two young children. Both of these adults are seriously overweight. The…


Ask Amy: Man who fathered child years ago fears being discovered

Dear Amy: I am a male in my early 70s. I made a terrible mistake when I was 16: I got my girlfriend (also…


Hax: No need to tiptoe around conversation with boyfriend

Adapted from a recent online discussion.   Dear Carolyn: After three months of dating, my boyfriend got a job in another city. It’s less than…


Ask Amy: 'Cat ladies' prefer cats to family members

Dear Amy: My sister-in-law says she is very allergic to cats. She lives six hours away from my mom. My sister and I have…


Slacker co-worker takes credit for team's work

Should put-upon worker tell the boss what's up?


Couple's bickering is making friends uncomfortable

What to do when a night out feels like couples therapy.