Advice

Looking for some advice on love, family, life? Here are tips from the Star Tribune's experts.


'Dump' old pal who wasn't a real friend?

An acquaintance is trying to rekindle a friendship that didn't exist.


Ask Amy: Woman feels hoodwinked by closeted ex-beau

Dear Amy: I was widowed in my 30s, with three young children. It was a very painful process to lose my husband at the…


Ask Amy: Confront mother over dad's childhood abuse?

Dear Amy: I am so angry with my mother. My father was abusive, and during his rages when I was a child, my mother…


How not to let a leaf-blowing neighbor ruin your serenity

This is about a childish, and lonely, neighbor who is hurt and acting out.


Ask Amy: Overseas lover pressures woman for quick marriage

Dear Amy: I am in a long-distance relationship with a man I met in school. After graduation, he had to return to his country…


Ask Amy: Brother uses elder mom's funds for his own purposes

Dear Amy: When my elderly parents were living in an assisted-living facility, my older sister and brother lived nearby. My parents had accumulated a…


Ask Amy: Guy's lies lead straight to the gym

Dear Amy: My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. We decided to make some major sacrifices in order to pay off…


Ask Amy: Parents reject new in-laws on moral grounds

Dear Amy: My son married a lovely young woman, “Sarah,” but ever since the wedding my husband and I never see him. We are…


Ask Amy: Retiring couple uproot college-bound son

Dear Amy: I’m retired, and my wife is retiring soon. We have been building a home two hours away (in another state) and will…


Ask Amy: Mom's cancer diagnosis raises many concerns

Dear Amy: Four months ago, my mom was diagnosed with late-stage ovarian cancer. She chose not to undergo medical treatment. Instead, she has been…


Chilly sister-in-law might be sending a message

Don't take her radio silence personally.


Mother-in-law still gets last name wrong on birthday checks after 20 years

Her mother-in-law remembers her birthday -- with a check with the wrong last name.


Ask Amy: Expectant parents worry about 'thirdhand' smoke

Dear Amy: My wife and I are expecting our first child. Thankfully, both sets of our parents are active in our lives. However, my…


Ask Amy: Siblings want to send artist to life school

Dear Amy: My brother has worked as a freelance artist (with side gigs, such as teaching) his whole life. He is capable of working…


Ask Amy: Hyper-competent professional bored in her job

Dear Amy: I am 35 years old. For the past 10 years, I’ve been working at the same company, working my way up to…


They're feeling hostile at having friends treat home like a youth hostel

Hard-partying houseguests keep hosts awake with late night rowdiness.


Ask Amy: Dog bite causes family rift

Dear Amy: I am the mother of three adult children and grandmother to six. On Christmas Eve, my son’s 4-year-old was bitten by my…


Misuse of handicap spots drives her mad

The problem: Could you please address the misuse of handicap parking spaces? When I need to shop, I drive around and around to find a…


Hey, buddy, can you spare me a career recommendation?

What to do when finding something nice to say is a real job.


Ask Amy: Women wonder whether to call out male friends for sexism

Dear Amy: I found a group of people who share the same deep love and support for an international sports team. We meet up…


Ask Amy: Hidden debt makes wife want to run and hide

Dear Amy: I’m in a long-term marriage. I have hidden debt (in my name only). The debt is around $45,000. I incurred this debt…


Does seeing dogs everywhere drive you barking mad?

More and more people have dogs that they treat like children and take everywhere.


Ask Amy: DNA match reveals unknown niece

Dear Amy: I was tested by a DNA service that notifies participants of DNA relatives and their calculated degree of kinship. I was stunned…


Ask Amy: Daughter's wedding brings fear of abusive ex-husband

Dear Amy: My daughter is getting married in a month and I am afraid of seeing my ex-husband. He was abusive on several levels:…


Friend's fad diet pursuits are eating her up

How to offer an exercise in patience and model good habits.